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esg last won the day on October 25 2015

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    We got a van!

    I started up having pain days last week and didn't finish with the last post. I'll go back to those questions. This past weekend, though, we were blessed with a van. I had been searching for a small car but ended up seeing a van with a great report, all the service records over the years and so I called to check on it. The owner was wonderful. She and I had a nice chat on the phone and I mentioned that it was just me and my son (I can't remember what we were talking about) and then on Saturday when we met her, she had knocked nearly $800 off the asking price! She said she likes to help an
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    I saw it coming - rant warning

    Momto6, thank you. I can't get over feeling stuck but that did remind me that my son increasingly unhappy and I don't want that for him. It's not a good situation. I had stopped bringing her to work to help my own physical pains. It's a lot worse sitting in the car on some days and funny enough that reminded me of telling my mother that and having it passed over. Or telling her I was tired of this and having her treat me like the irresponsible one. Like I don't want to help family. This is really not going to get any better and I am making myself sick. I'm in more pain today than I need to be.
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    I saw it coming - rant warning

    I'm 29. Right now, I really need to figure out the car situation. I'm planning to get us to where our land is which is three hours away. I don't trust my car to make that trek and I don't know the mechanics there well enough yet in case something happens. I dont think it will fall apart right then and there but I dont want to risk it so thats number one. I will be researching mechanics there but still looking for a car. I'm not doing anything with IVF at the moment. My concern is diminishing fertility but I'm not doing anything yet. If I wanted, I could get a more expensive car, pay on s
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    I saw it coming - rant warning

    Plinda- yes I know, boundary issues. I am reading the book. Kelvan- she was here and saw the paperwork. She told my older sister without me knowing. I'm not sure I'll sell the car to them. I haven't made any plans yet. The problem is that I know my mother will badmouth me in front of the family. Probably for this money too but it would end up a sob story about leaving no car. I would prefer not to lose the rest of my family but I don't know how to combat that. I don't want to give the car at all but at this point, I do want to just walk away with the least amount of her crap to deal with.
  5. You're probably sick of reading my family rants so if you don't want to see me upset or hear about my mother you may want to pass this. I'm hoping in a year I can look back and be in a better place than this but I have to put my thoughts somewhere. I got an email from my mother today entitled "What are your plans" It started off fine with this whole "I'm writing just to you cause people don't listen when you talk" thing and quickly turned into how when she gets money the first thing she does is share it. She goes on to say that if she were me she would give money for being here (but do
  6. I'm not taking care of the car after this if it does go to them. It's been her driving it more than me anyway so she would be responsible for it. I would be done with it same as if I sold it to a stranger. I'd rather get something else. I'm sure it could go a while longer with money put into it (it's 14 years old) but putting money into it would be about the same as buying the cash car which is what I prefer to move on and do. I'm looking at a newer year that can go another 5-10 years without a doubt. 10 preferably. We leave once I have my car taken care of.
  7. I like to look at the sales papers but when I opened them the other day there was a letter from a consumer protection bureau that was talking about a check. Turns out, the mortgage company was sued by a federal company last year for their unfair practices and my part came today. I can't even believe it. I had plans to work on re-funding my emergency fund in a week and to pay on some bills with money coming in then but now I can pay bills, I can buy a new (to me) car after mine literally started falling apart this weekend. I can actually write out the things that need to be taken care of an
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    It's been over a year since

    Right Mimi but instead of freezing just the eggs they'll be fertilized first. I'm infertile already so IVF is it for me but we're not sure why I seem to be in more of a decline now so yes very much like an embryo emergency fund lol.
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    It's been over a year since

    I'm not sure what you don't get. We're in an apartment right now. We traveled before like we wanted and plan to again but we're back here in town while we work out the car situation. I work online. We don't have public assitance besides his health care since they wont allow him on private insurance (because he qualifies for state). My current decisions are doing very well for us. I like them very much. Without them we'd be further into public assistance instead of off of it now. We'd be without savings for our car, without land and without longterm goals. I think you're loo
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    It's been over a year since

    Thanks Dorothy. I considered that again recently but we went through a similar fostering situation years ago. The adoption didn't happen at the last minute after a couple years and it was incredibly hard. I don't have it in me to go that route again especially not with my son here now. I have a plan for adoption in the future though but it will be quite some time before I pursue it.
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    It's been over a year since

    Clever Username, it may sound like a lot but I actually only worry about working and homeschooling. Even the car situation doesn't stress me as there is plan in the works and out already. New baby trying is actually just putting money into savings for the next year plus not any actions beyond that. Nicolegrey, while housing is treated as primary, saving for that child does have to take place in the now or else the procedure wont happen even a year plus from now as planned. It's not the baby I'm saving for, it's the IVF and that doesn't take away from the primary goal. We are as settled/hom
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    It's been over a year since

    GreatLakesGirl, no. Essentially I've run out of time due to a reproductive illness so I'm planning IVF in a year plus so that I can save what I have left. That's not to say I'll go through a transfer/try for a pregnancy at the end (we'll see how everything looks in a year or so - it's longterm not shortterm) just that I'm at the point where I do need to get that ball rolling. Plinda, working on the go simply means that I only need my computer. Portable or mobile job you could say. That's how we left before. IVF is something I have to save for so it's not happening right now but it is being
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    It's been over a year since

    Thank you both. It's a tough situation. She does say that she'll Uber her way to work if I need my car but then she ends up paying nearly $100 a day to get that far and back which then means she can't pay bills as she's handling most of them herself. We've talked about her buying my car from me but she can't right now so I'm saving for my own and then later she'll start paying me for this one. At least that's currently the plan. While I work on that, I do make sure to assert myself and keep some time where we have our car and she has to work it out. It's not often as I know she's stretched bu
  14. I lost my login information along with the site bookmark so I haven't logged in in quite a while. I read over my last blog post and I wish I could say a lot has changed. A lot has but a lot has not. What has not? - My mother. She is still very much into telling people what to do and it extends into other family members as well. She is still herself in all the same ways. - My sister M and the driving. That was different and then they lost their car in the most recent flood. Since my older sister refuses to share or let her car be taken, mine is being used while I'm still in town
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