DH and I had a wonderful few days with our son. He is 24 and lives in the outer banks of NC. He really seems to have turned a corner and is getting his life together.
About 2 years ago he turned in his drivers license because his insurance was extremely high and he couldn't afford it. He was living with us and we told him turn in your license or get your own insurance because we weren't paying it anymore. He was struggling to find work and being somewhat difficult to live with. Then for a year or so he was working and living on his own locally, but spending all his money and just not getting it together very well. Where he was working went under and his girlfriend went back to California, so things weren't going to well. He moved back in and we paid for him to go to a week of bar tending school as a Christmas gift. He found a few part time jobs but it was a struggle and he still had no transportation. (Years before we had bought him a used car but he got multiple speeding tickets and several accidents and then he sold the car because he needed the money). Anyway, last April/may timeframe he went to the outer banks with a friend and got two jobs, worked like a crazy man and paid his rent and bills and such.
Fast forward to a month ago, he came home for a visit and had a family friend go with him to buy a car. He found a good condition beater that he bought for 2000. We offered to get some minor things done to it for him as his Christmas gift so that was 600.
So, Thursday DH and I went down to the outer banks and stayed overnight at a nearby hotel. While DH worked from the hotel I took DS to the post office to set up his mailbox at his house (he shares a house with 5 or 6 other people in the vacation area), then we went to the local insurance agents office and he paid for his car insurance, then we drove the hour to the DMV and he attempted to get his drivers license. They were very helpful, but he had a problem with Virginia holding his license, so he called the Virginia DMV and we were on hold for 20 minutes. But finally the Virginia DMV said he could be squared away if he paid 158 for some fine or whatever from 2 years before, so he paid that over the phone. Then the NC DMV said he would have to come back the next day because the computer system would update info overnight.
So, Friday we got up early and went back to the DMV again and he got his NC license. We then stopped in at the other DMV for car tags (they do it in two separate locations for tags and licenses) and he checked to see what he had to do to get his car registered. He has to wait for his actual license in the mail and they don't do temporary tags so he has to wait. Then on our way back to his house we stopped at his bank for him to change his address from our house to his and stopped in at the insurance agents to give them a copy of the license.
Then we went back to his house and he picked up some things and he came back to our house with us for a visit. We stopped to visit our daughter at college on the way back.
Yes, it was a pain to drive 4 hours to his place on Thursday, then drive all around the outer banks area for two days back and forth taking him places. Yes it was expensive to stay in a hotel, eat out three meals, and pay for gas for it all, then drive all the way back home on Friday. But OMG it was so awesome to see him make this much progress. He seems happy, is enjoying the work, has strong friendships, and now has his license. We will probably tow the car down next weekend for him when we take him back down there. Then when the official license comes in the mail he can get a friend to take him back to the DMV one more time to get his tags and he will be able to drive his car.
He was surprised at how much all this cost him and now it will be a little tight over the winter, but he seemed to have it under control and was excited about it. I really think it meant a lot to him that we told him we were proud of how well he is doing. He even said he had been using the envelope system I had set up for him last spring. I asked him if he would read TMMO, and he said no but if I would just tell him what the next step should be he would do it.
So it has been a good few days for us. I think maybe, just maybe, I can now classify my son as a man and no longer a boy. Please God, help him stay on the right path.
Next weekend when we go back with the car in tow I will pack some food so we don't have to eat out.