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  1. I reported that post several days ago. Not sure if anyone is reading the reports....
  2. I have good days and bad days. I like reading and doing puzzles, so it's nice that I've had more time to do those hobbies. But I really miss social interaction in a big way. Just trying to take it one day at a time.
  3. He's been deemed essential. I'm riding a roller coaster that I want off of. Every day is a new worry it seems!
  4. Florida is finally shutting down. We don't know yet whether my husband's job is considered essential. They have a roomy facility and everyone is way more than 6 feet apart. But if they are classified non essential they have to shut down anyway. This is the worst possible scenario for my family. I'm not mad, and I don't think it's the wrong decision per se, because they can't really visit facilities on a case by case basis to make these determinations. I'm just actually worried for our financial future for the first time. I was prepared to handle a paycut but not his entire paycheck gone.
  5. People are complaining about a bit more than sitting on a couch. People are losing their jobs and their livelihoods.
  6. miranova

    Divorce & Downsize

    The only good thing about my divorce process was that neither one of us cleaned out the accounts behind the other's back. If he had done that, it would have been all out war. Both of our attorneys told us to do it, and somehow we both knew not to. I'm not saying keep your account together but if you do split them, be 100% honest and upfront about it. Talk to him and do it together. I've seen countless friendly divorces turn very VERY ugly as soon as someone closes the bank account.
  7. miranova

    Divorce & Downsize

    I'm sorry for what you are going through. Since he is the one moving out, I think you should stay put for 6 months until things settle down, and then decide what to do. Don't make too many big decisions all at once. It may seem like too big of a house, but realtor fees aren't cheap. It might be best to stay put. Then again maybe not...just give it some time.
  8. Thanks Meredith. For some reason your statement: "It's hard to understand why all people don't feel the same sense of responsibility toward their children." has really helped me tonight. I am proud of taking care of my children. All of them. She is the one missing out. Sometimes I just need to vent. I can't talk about this to anyone in real life since I'm supposed to be the better person and all that junk. I'm over it, for now. Thanks for bearing with me.
  9. I appreciate your thoughts but I may not have been clear. We will not sue for full custody, we have no grounds to do so. The children are not being abused or neglected, which would be the only way any judge would consider terminating her rights. When I said I would adopt them, I meant it, but I know it is a pipe dream because it would require her to voluntarily give up her rights which I don't see happening realistically. To your other questions. We are responsible for our percentage of aftercare, and she is responsible for hers. On paper. As you know, people don't always abide by thi
  10. We are not opposed to taking her to court. If for no other reason than to send her a message that we aren't suckers and won't be her ATM, at least not without consequence. We are comfortable filing all paperwork with no attorney so it may happen if she flat out won't pay what she owes us from June and will definitely happen if we have to pay the orthodontist bill or aftercare bill. I don't care if it's not collectible; I'm just not the kind of person who is going to be taken advantage of without putting up a fight. At the very least, she needs to be inconvenienced slightly. We aren't
  11. To be fair, her family doesn't contact Dh anymore, but they used to. Katrina, I can identify with the clothes. I sort of flipped out a couple of weeks ago when the 10 year olds came over in size 6 clothes. I am reaching a point where my 6 years of silence in order to get along with her is going to boil over and I'm afraid I'm going to really lay into her one day.
  12. Yes some accountability would be nice. We don't need an itemized statement or anything because that's not practical. We would be happy if she simply paid her share of the kids bills. What's going to happen is that she will be behind on the aftercare for the rest of this year and then she will stiff them. It's 5th grade so this is their last year there so she won't care that she has a balance at the end of the year. She will simply stiff them like she did their preschool years ago. She has no shame. She is one of those people who thinks that if someone makes more money than her, they
  13. She is their mom. Kids will always love their mom. I do think they love me in a different way and I know they appreciate me. They do thank me for things a lot. And I know when they are older they will remember that I was the one who took them to appointments and parent teacher conferences and made sure they were involved in activities. But kids always love their real mom no matter what. And if was a 3rd party observer with no knowledge of her taking our money and spending it on herself, I'd probably think she was a nice person. She's friendly. But I know too much.
  14. We've joked about that idea before! One time she said she was going to move out of the country (without the kids because she cant take them) and dh reminded her that she would lose child support so she didn't go. That should tell you all you need to know about her. And yes we wish we wouldn't have tipped her off but at the time we thought the children would be devastated by her abondoning them so we were trying to get her to not leave them.
  15. I can not post this anywhere where anyone knows me because it would not go over well, but I am fed up with Dh's ex. She gets almost $800 a month in child support and isn't paying the kids's bills. She is 4 months overdue on her share of the orthodontist bill (her share is only $32 a month, ours is more). The school calls us almost daily about the kids overdue lunch accounts (we have them pack so that is ALL her) and she is overdue on their aftercare as well. None of this would be overly horrible if it wasn't for the fact that she and her boyfriend just went on a 10 day vacation without
  16. miranova


    Ah, gotcha. Restarting them after BS3 makes sense.
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    Am I reading correctly that you are contributing $250 per month to college funds but nothing to retirement?
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    When I was in grad school I had a 3 year old and a newborn home with me. It was the hardest time of my life. I thought it would be so easy to just write papers and do homework during nap time or something but there was never enough time. With a 6 month old who is probably crawling all over the place, it's just not realistic that you'll be able to work for 4-5 hours at once. I wouldn't pay for childcare for that unless the money makes it really worthwhile. Don't get too discouraged though. This is a season of life. My kids are older now and I work from home and it's fine. Even during the
  19. Final update, they are covering none of the roof because it was already at the end of its life. Which, it totally was, so we can't really argue with that. The drywall and flooring damage is "covered". In quotes because due to the deductible we will still have to pay for all of it. Oh well. Worth a shot.
  20. Insurance has decided that they needed to bring out a structural engineer to see if there is any more damage to the house that we are not aware of yet. That happened a few days ago. Still waiting for an answer on funds.
  21. Three estimates for a new roof: $8k, $12k, and $16k. LOL. This is why you have to get multiple estimates. We scheduled the $8k guys because they are already two weeks out for scheduling. If the adjuster comes back and says it's not covered then we will have to just pay it. The roof really just needs to be replaced. Of course that is not including the drywall and flooring. And yes, emergency funds for rentals are a must. This isn't a total surprise. It was the oldest roof we had. It happens!
  22. Our hurricane update: we are safe. Just got like 10 inches of rain. Many parts of our area were flooded, unable to drive through. We are a bit higher ground so we were never trapped. The bad news: the roof fell in on one of our rental homes. Destroyed drywall and flooring. Talked to insurance and they said by state law they can never hold a hurricane claim against us (can't raise our rates or non renew us) so we went ahead and had an adjuster out. They will make a decision within a week as to whether it will be covered or not. There is some question about whether there was pre-e
  23. miranova

    More court drama

    So what happened when you called?
  24. miranova

    Doctors Appointment

    That sounds very frustrating. I don't have any suggestions for you, but I hope you can find answers and relief.
  25. I'm confused as to why you would owe more after your divorce. Head of household is awesome, and if I remember correctly you pay alimony which is all tax deductible. Plus childcare expenses etc....are you sure last year's taxes were correct? Of course I could be missing something. Don't panic. Whatever it is, it will be. And you'll deal with it. Take a deep breath.
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