Wow - It's been a while and a lot has happened - actually - everything that could have happened has indeed happened.
I can't stay on long - but here is where we are:
I moved into my own two bedroom apartment in December of 2015.
In Feb of 2016 I was laid off after 10 years.
I freaked out - totally freaked out. Got very depressed - got suicidal - wanted to simply not be anywhere anymore - no job, no husband, no divorce, no friends - it was a really crappy three months - like really really really really horrible. I never want to be in such a dark place again.
In March of 2016 my divorce was final.
In April I got a great contracting job. I loved the job but I hated being a contractor - so I kept job hunting daily to get on with a software company in a staff position.
In September I found a full time position at a computer company that I love!!!! I no longer work from home - which is wonderful as that was really contributing to my depression. It was bad - not leaving the house - some days I wouldn't get dressed - when I was depressed I didn't eat for days. Feb - April of 2016 was one of the very worst periods of my life.
In November I bought a house. My rent went from 755 (special move in price) to 935, which made me mad and I had the cash so I bought a house - my mortgage including taxes is 955 so I'm good on that. (Yes I put more than 20% down on the house).
Last week - I put in a hot tub. Last night I got in my very own hot tub for the very first time and it was WONDERFUL!!!!
Finances have been in better shape - and for the first time in my life I have some CC debt, about 8K - but I'm going to go after it (I have more than enough in savings to pay it off outright - but I want to keep the cash)- I paid for the Hot tub in cash - and I KNOW I should have paid off the cc before buying a hot tub - but dang it - life is short - I'm driving a 13 year old car, I'm divorced and I'll never have kids - I had a CRAPPY THREE YEARS and I wanted a hot tub - so I got one.