I can not post this anywhere where anyone knows me because it would not go over well, but I am fed up with Dh's ex.
She gets almost $800 a month in child support and isn't paying the kids's bills. She is 4 months overdue on her share of the orthodontist bill (her share is only $32 a month, ours is more). The school calls us almost daily about the kids overdue lunch accounts (we have them pack so that is ALL her) and she is overdue on their aftercare as well. None of this would be overly horrible if it wasn't for the fact that she and her boyfriend just went on a 10 day vacation without the kids.
Trust me when I tell you, the courts don't care. We owe the money no matter what, no matter what she spends it on. If we end up having to pay the orthodontist, our only recourse is to sue her. We are legally unable to deduct any of it from child support. She also owes us several hundred dollars from a school trip from JUNE.
She pays for NO activities for the kids because she simply won't take them. So if we want them to do anything, we take them and we pay. Hundreds if not thousands over the years that she hasn't paid a dime of.
Cars and phones and college for the kids? Forget it, she will never pay a dime and we know it.
I am having a hard time just letting this go. I have never resented child support being paid to her, but when she doesn't use it to pay the kids's bills and they call ME back to the back of the orthodontist office to tell me they are about to stop his treatment over a payment that is about 4% of what we give her every month, I feel pure rage. This is immoral. It is theft, period. If I could adopt the kids, I would but she would never allow it because she would lose the money.
And there is nothing we can do about it.