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Update: baby is here :-)


gmarie

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So I had the baby on 4/6, a week past my due date. I did end up with a c section after a 2 day labor so slowly recovering from that. But, he is healthy and perfect, and so incredibly adorable!! I wish he could stay this small forever. ;-) Breastfeeding is going well, he gained back his birth weight plus some (was born 7 lbs 9 oz and yesterday at the pediatrician's office he weighed 7 lb 13 oz). We started using the cloth diapers a few days ago and that has also been going well also. We love the quality of the prefolds and the diaper covers are great. We are going to try out the washable wipes later today. Both my mom and the pediatrician were impressed by how cute the diaper covers are and with the invention of the snappi which does make it so much easier. The diapers do leak sometimes, and we do have to change wet diapers faster since they get sooo wet. But he was leaking with the pampers also, so it's really not a big deal.

 

As for work, I am off for a few weeks... I also never updated that I did pick up a part time bookkeeping job for a small hotel/restaurant in Nov that helps our budget balance. It is 20 mins away and they are ok with me working from home. I also worked tax season this year as well- but three days a week, which did have me working 6 days from Feb until a week before my due date, but it was all good. I'm really glad that I did it, it looks good not having a gap on my resume, and it was nice catching up with my old coworkers, and not feeling like I missed tax season (not to mention my return done for free on good software!) They also threw us a really nice shower, so that was an added bonus.

 

I am planning on working 100% from home from now on. My priority is this baby and if either job has a problem with it, I'm prepared to quit! But, I think it will all work out... we will will just have to learn how to manage our time better...

 

Dh ended up taking 3 weeks off, this week is his last week, and I'm going to be sad when he goes back to work. It's been great having him home helping me...

 

Also he filled the freezer with food the weekend before i had the baby, and it has been so incredibly awesome to have healthy(ish) meals that can be heated up... so we are determined to keep it up and keep the freezer stocked which will be a huge help going forward.

 

We did go ahead with the state insurance that I posted about a few weeks ago. We just have to pay full price, but full price is only $176 for no deductible or copays, and also covers dental and vision. Adding My plan was an extra $300ish a month plus a deductible increase of $1500, plus copays...

 

We are still waiting for the hospital bills to come in so I can figure out what to do for this month. We just paid cash for his last two pediatrician appts, but they said they can submit the claims for us so we can be reimbursed if we do go ahead with the one month of my private insurance...

 

As far as our finances and house repairs - we are waiting for the final numbers for hospital bills, but we do have to replace our boiler soon - DH stopped the leaking but it is on its last legs. We may be able to stretch it out for a few months, but definitely before next winter. Also need to do the balcony and close out the permits, etc. We have been using our baby emergency fund for baby purchases, etc. so it's not as big as it would have been, but it should at least cover the hospital bill and remainder will go the boiler...

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Woohoo! How do you plan on working at home with an infant? Are you having someone come in for a certain # of hours a day? Carrie has done it. Maybe she can chime in

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For now. Im planning on working while dh is home... If i can figure out how to get some work done during the day that would be great but not counting on it. But he does sleep a lot, and can get some work done during breastfeeding... right now i'm using that time to read articles etc because I'm intentionally not working... but just have to be organized and flexible... i'm honestly not too worried about it.

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Also both jobs are flexible so can work at anytime during day or night, and don't require me to be on the phone...

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Congrats!

 

When my kids were babies, I had a neighborhood tween "mother's helper" come over a few days a week for a few hours (along with MIL or my mom coming over a few times a week). It worked well as I could work when they were here and I would take breaks to breastfeed. 

 

As the kids got older, I scheduled the mother's helper times for in between naps so I could get a few solid hours of work done each day. When they went down for a nap after lunch, the helper would leave. My work is also flexible and ranges from part-time to full-time depending on my workload (self-employed).

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I'm not against a mother's helper I'm the future but not until baby is older. I would rather just work when dh is home and work around baby schedule. But we will see how it goes. I was feeling confident until i posted this anyway...

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I just need to remind myself that everyone is different... Just because something doesn't work for one person, or someone can't see themselves doing something, doesn't mean it won't work for me. I really feel this will work out...

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Congratulations!!!  Having a new baby is always so exciting.  =0)

 

Every baby and every mother is different.  =0)  Something that works well for one set, will not work at all for another.  You have to figure out what works for you.  Knowing that there are other options that worked for other folks may help if what you think will work for some reason doesn't.  You can rest assured that there are other options other than all or nothing.... which can sometimes seem like the only way it can be done.

 

You have a good plan, work it.  =0)  Just don't forget that you and DH will need some together time too, and don't let work take over ALL that time that you have when the baby is sleeping.  =0)

 

Congratulations again!  And good luck!

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I'm not going to ignore my husband or let my house fall apart or never communicate with the outside world lol. I kbow everyone is trying to help but I just updated my blog, was not asking for advice on working at home! Feels very negative!

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Congratulations! I've never left my baby with anyone else or paid for childcare for her. I work while she naps, breastfeeds, or plays. I have my computer in the main part of the house, so I'm right there. If I have to go to a meeting, which isn't often, DH will work from home with the kids. It's definitely doable.

 

I'm so happy for you! Sounds like everything is going great.

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My brother and former sister-in-law ran a graphics arts business from home.  When my niece was born they continued to do so without any problems.  It was only when she became a toddler and was running around and into everything that the woman across the street babysat for my niece during business hours.  I have no doubt that your plans will work for you.  You have a flexible job and a motivated spirit.  That is all you need.  Your baby is very lucky to have mama who can be home.  Enjoy every minute.  I'm so happy for you.

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I worked, and went to law school, all while having babies and staying home with them. It is doable, just be flexible with what you need to get done. Being home and working is something I an striving to do. I would much rather do that than going into a office everyday (which is what I am doing now).

 

Congrats on the new blessing!

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Congratulations on the baby -- it sounds like the transition is going well. That's wonderful.

 

I'm happy that you've found jobs that will work with your newborn, and that you're able to work from home. Make sure that you don't overwork yourself trying to make sure the house is perfect, the laundry is all caught up and there is a home cooked meal every night! :-). Your wellbeing is important - you've been so through in your plans that I'm confident that your decision to be working from home was not done willy nilly. You'll be awesome and you'll enjoy the time!!

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I don't think anyone was negative. I'm sorry if my question came across that way. Just making conversation. My baby is pretty busy and I only get housework and my CEUs done during naps which are unpredictable at best. Definitely easier when he was younger.

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sorry, i don't mean to be rude, i'm just tired and the idea that childcare is the only way to make working at home possible makes me panic. He's two weeks old, I can't even begin to think about childcare and trusting someone else with him... 

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I hate the idea of childcare too.  With all of our kids I've been home with them full time until they start a high quality montessori preschool at age 3.5-4.  I did try a MMO with my second child, but he only went one season/short year, before I decided I didn't like him away from me (and that was only two mornings per week).  I'm still not crazy about preschool being 5 mornings per week, but it's our best option for the style education/play that we want.

 

So until baby girl hits 3, (only 1 year and 1 summer away!), she'll be home with me.  I'll work around her. 

 

More power to you, gmarie!

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My mom was a stay-at-home mom and we didn't go to school under kindergarten (granted this was in the '50s and '60s). She always said being home with us when we were young was the happiest time of her life. It is wonderful to hear how you moms still love that life.

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Well the first week of working at home with baby without Dh home went reasonably well. I will nurse while sitting at the computer with the boppy pillow and just let him sleep there or will put him in his carrier with music on. I also bought a sling that I need to learn how to use. I think that will be helpful to get stuff done around the house etc.

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