So since this is my bog i can say whatever I want right? Obviously i have been part of a somewhat drama filled post recently. And, while i said thst the opinions of others are fine and i did respond and defrnd myself somewhat, since this here is my blog i will say and address what i feel like.
There was a particular line about "kangaroo meat,....and gourmet meals at home." i want to point that out...AT HOME. DH and I havent been out to eat together in MONTHS. And, while we have totally purchased the occasional fast food/drive thru meal, its ALWAYS been within either the grocery/blow money budget. AND i am not justifying that at all, because its a flaw. if i have all these pounds of chickrn i should use them instead of buying fried chicken. Regardless of whether its within the grocery budget or not.
However, the whole "at home" got me too. It felt as if the implication was that now, not only should those who are struggling not go out to eat, but they should only eat PB&J at home too. I have FIVE people here to feed. I am trying to feed them good high quality food. i am working with some picky kids, 2 of which might be on the ASD spectrum. I just can't see $600 for all the food AND toiletries, misc household and such, as excessive or outside of DR's recommendations. And if i can use my $600 a month/$150 a week to buy a side of beef, to build a stockpile of food that is similar to ehat was a VITAL part of getting us through DHs unemployment AND STILL eat GOOD food on top of that, well, REALLY? Most of the country can't figure out hot to buy ONLY food for 5 on that budget. i have food and TP and soap and laundry detergent on that. and it doesn't even count cloth diapers for CJ.
Another mention was piling up cash instead of paying this debt. the idea being that this was storm cloud mode. while i get it, the reality is that we have been in storm for TWO YEARS. And that doesn't count the years prior where we were deal with pregnancies or kids being sick. Remember CJ being in the hospital for a week at 4 months old? Cause I do. And then there are things with Caiti that i am not willing to share for her privacy that also went on that year.
We CANNOT stay in storm cloud mode forever. We have certainly had our share of "non DR situations" I would classify those as our trip to Disney in Oct 2013 (given whats happened since, dont regret it for a second) and MAYBE my garage sale trips. But, i can't say that i believe that my lack of steady income from A J.O.B. or that eating somewhat fancy stuff AT HOME, are the real reasons we are where we are. and is this is what life is throwing at us, i am doing what i think is best given what we have been thrown. I think that sometimes you have to move forward. Storm cloud mode isnt supposed to last 2+ years.