A second generation doing it right

[texas red]

My daughter purchased a home she could afford and furnished it with early attic. Other relatives and came to visit and were highly critical. Actually, some of their comments were down right insulting. Their daughter had purchased a brand new townhouse and later announced she had to sell it because she had gotten an ARM and could no longer afford it. This was in December amd she still hasn't sold. We are a family of planners and were thinking ahead for Christmas. I wanted to buy my daughter a new entertainment center so we coud impress the relatives. Go ahead hit me Dave. My daughter said no that it was a want not a need and she really needed a patio set. Her exact words were, "You trained you children well." By the way, she is 32 and solvent.

[Susan in KY]

Good for her!

Good for you!

:applause:

[RebeccaG]

Congrats to your daughter. Don't ever again think to buy something "to impress the relatives". Down the road when the other kid's townhouse sells, your daughter will still have her house. And gradually, she'll have less "special" furniture.

[MoneyMama]

Congratulations on raising such a wonderful and responsible daughter. Now reward her with the patio set and the other family can go....well, you know!:bleh:

[yoopermichelle]

that is awesome! good job :)

[mindymc73]

Good for her!!!!!!! Must be really gratifying for you!

[luvnlife]

Great job for both you and your daughter. It's obvious you taught her very valuable lessons and obvious she was listening.

And when the friends and family comment negatively about her furniture, etc. you can let them know that at least she can sleep in peace at night knowing that her she can afford the home she purchase and won't be forced to sell it or get foreclosed on. I'm sure that'll shut'em up.

[cutenirish]

OMG how awful of her (and your) family to be that way.
I can list the items we bought for our home the rest where given to us.

We bought our couch in 2005 (after using a old couch that the dogs finally ruined then a futon over a 5 yr perido) couch $450 with queen sleeper.

Entertainment center 2001 $350
Matress 2003 $1100 half off reg price


Given to us:
Bedroom end tables (had our own dresser which we replaced with matching ones to each other) gave old dressers to my brother.
Endtabls and long table in living room
Dinning table and hutch
2 single beds


If we wer'ent given the stuff we were we'd have used my collaege apt stuff (which we kept or gave away to my brother).

It's not what you have but how you make it homey. She can afford her home and that's the most important thing.

[mindymc73]

After 11 years of marriage:

Our couch and comfy chair were purchased (with cash, but before DR) in the fall of 06.
Our mattress was purchased in 05 (was using a hand-me-down before that).
My birthday gift a couple of years ago was a vanity from Target for our bathroom.
My parents bought us a crib and dresser when my oldest was born - still using that dresser for them.

My husband's desk in our room is his from boyhood. My craft desk is a folding table (as is my computer desk).
My sons' bunk bed is a hand-me-down from a friend.
The twin bed in the playroom was MY bed that my parents bought me just before I turned 2 (newer mattress though ;) ).
Any bookshelves we have are those cheapy Walmart put-it-together-yourself ones.
Our TV was given to me new 12 years ago.
My dining table and china hutch are hand-me-downs (was DH's grandmother's).
The end table on my side of the bed is an old magazine rack (with a top) that I painted - given to me by my parents.
The end table on DH's side is our old TV stand (cheapy from Walmart) :laugh3:
My dresser is the one that matches my twin bed (that my parents' purchased when I turned 2).
DH's dresser was given to me by my aunt.
Our TV hutch was also given to me by my aunt.

And I'm perfectly happy with what I have :D Shame on the relatives for being that way. My guess is that there's some jealousy because they know she's not still paying on stuff ;)

[texas red]

BTW, the patio set is a birthday-christmas gift. I appreciate your kind words. The first year in a new house is always tough.
We don't wish to speak poorly of our family.

[gothedistance]

my whole house is filled with OO- Ah's (think of ooohhhhh, aaaahhhhh, like someone would say at a game show or museum) its been a common acronym in my family for over 20 yrs now

O- out
O- of
A - another's
H- home

or out of a house for short

My furniture is all hand me downs, stuff I found in houses when my dad was paid to take all the "trash" out of foreclosures, yard sale stuff, etc. There is so little in our house that is new besides mattresses.... I think one desk, cribs, one small armoire.....

So be PROUD of the OO--AH's!!! so much better than debt!

Danielle

[greeneyedgirl]

I am over the 'impressing the relatives' thing. I imagine when I am done having a mortgage 20 years before they are that it will be impressive!:yep:

As far as 'stuff'---I love vintage finds to work with. Since it is not the style of most around me, I am sure that they just think I can afford no more than thrift/rummage items!